April 28, 2016

Ex's and benefits.

Relationships come with ex's. Beautiful ex's, handsome ex's, successful ex's, haunting ex's. Ex's that make the present ones fight within themselves, battling with the image of how it was compared to how it now is. Ex's with striking Instagram accounts, that make you question who you are compared to all of that...

Ex's will always have the benefit of having been there before you. Of sharing something special, of having created something intimate - with the one that you now love. Memories, fights, reactions that you'll never know about. All with the one who now has your heart. You can choose to be afraid of all they had. To feel the intimidation of their unknown. Of everywhere they went, of all that they experienced, of every Sunday walk they took. You can choose to compare yourself to the other, to dream up their past reality. His feelings when he was with her. What he thought when he looked at her. What it was that once made him fall in love with her... But the truth is: No matter what they had, you gained from them having it. They shared something both of them needed to go trough - together. Your loved one would not be where he is nor who he is if it wasn't for his ex('s). It is your present that benefits from their shared past.

So cherish the ex's, as they helped carry and lift him here - to the level that you are now enjoying. To the sides that you, in this time, fell in love with. To the timing that suited you both. Be thankful and be grateful - and no matter what they went through, respect what once was. Simply stop the insecurity of comparing. After all, you would not want to be her. You would not wish to have what they had. As with being and having all of that - you would now be your loved one's ex.


Love,

Carolina





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